All posts by VELINDA

Brandon and Jenna's Mom, a spiritual entrepreneur, philanthropist, animal and nature lover, and author with a financial consultant background.  My passion is turning my past experiences and wisdom into a springboard for helping people through my websites, presentations, and books.  I am the founder of Life Talks, Positive Thoughts on Life, and This Is Not Brandon websites. Why I do this:  I am dedicated to making this world a better place by helping people change and recreate their lives after tragedy.  I do this because I know that no one has to suffer and live in lack no matter what their past may have been, how long it may have been, or what your current circumstances are.  It is my own past and experience that drives me to this purpose.  There is no better teacher and no replacement for experience.

Resistance to Fear

Most fears we have never happen, however, when we focus on them and hold tight to them, they have a way of manifesting themselves. So if you are going to give in to your fears you might as well open the door for them and invite them in.

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”   Mark Twain

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”

Franklin D. Roosevelt

What we Believe in our Heart

We must continue on with integrity for what others think or believe about us doesn’t matter. What matters is what we know in our heart and soul as truth.

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.”
Virginia Satir

Beautiful People do not Just Happen

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
Dr.Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Your Story

I would rather die living than live dying. 

 Some people are afraid to live.  They play it safe and become a prisoner of what they never wanted.  They have dreams and even believe in themselves, but give up too easily.  Then their soul dies.

 But there is a dream that belongs to you only and you can’t be afraid to pursue it.

 I would rather die living my dream than survive living a life that isn’t me.

 “People suffer when they pursue a life or chase a dream that doesn’t belong to them”  Caroline Myss

Decisions Shape Our Destiny

The decisions you make shape your destiny.  Decision is actually 80% of the equation and action is 20%. Your mind is your computer and determines those decisions. Therefore, clarity, purpose and attitude make all the difference. But because most people are stuck in lack of confidence, they don’t see how amazing they are.  They pay more attention to distractions than dedication and dreams.  However, all people have the same potential. What determines their destiny is what they do with their potential.

I Believe…

I Believe…

 

that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
that no matter how bad your heart is broken that the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.  And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
that you shouldn’t be eager to find out a secret.  It could change your life forever.
that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
that you should always leave loved ones with loving well wishes. It may be the last time you see them.
that you can keep going long after you can’t.
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
that we don’t have to change friends, if we understand that friends change.
that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
that you either control your attitude or it controls you.
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, that passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down, will be the ones who help you get back up.
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The Whole Point of Believing (again)

 “People seem to lose faith so easily.  Isn’t that the whole point of believing? Tomorrow always brings promises that today couldn’t make” 

Jenna Gilbert

“Hopeful”  by Thomas Mangelsen

When You Live for Today

When you live for today,
Rather than in the past or for the future.
When you stop looking for happiness
And start giving it to others.
When you want less of what you can see
And more of what you can’t see.
When anything in the world could be yours
And you choose the simple things.
When you have something to live for
That makes you feel alive.
When joy doesn’t depend upon the external
But upon the eternal.
When your life has roots
And your dreams have wings.
When you know the value of love
And value it above all else.
When you never let go of hope
But hold onto it for life.
When you have a purpose to fulfill
That fulfills you.
 
When you haven’t the strength to go on
But you’ve too much heart to give up.
When you aren’t led by your fears
But by your faith.
When you can find something good in the bad
And consider it a blessing.
When you would take nothing
For what is most important to you.
When you realize that success and failure
Are only what you think.
When you know the storms of life
Will pass on to a brighter day.
When you don’t waste time worrying
But use it to make a difference.
When you need something to stand on,
And your standards speak for themselves.
When you accept life on its own terms
And use them to determine your own.
When you are touched by the beauty around you
And the world is touched
by the beauty in you……

Photo:  National Geographic

Love

Love…We think about it, sing about it, dream about it, lose sleep worrying about it.  When we don’t have it, we search for it; when we discover it, we don’t know what to do with it; when we have it, we fear losing it.  It is the constant source of pleasure and pain.  But we can’t predict which it will be from one moment to the next.  It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, impossible to live without” 

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