“Love is life and if you are missing love, you are missing life”
Leo Buscaglia
Be in love with life…experience it all…the newness and the pain. There’s something miraculous about a love for life that brings all we want and need.
If you experience pain…remember the experience, learn the lesson and KNOW that there is new love on the way
Open your heart… a closed heart never finds love
Don’t hold back…vulnerability is not weakness, it is power
Align yourself completely with your uniqueness…your needs, dreams, and desires…and you will find someone who resonates with you
Get into life to feel and experience all the richness that awaits…love is not found sitting in your living room. (And remember, real relationships are not the ones you have on your cell phone or facebook)
Do what you love…in a job, a hobby, or giving to others…doing what you love makes you feel alive
Because in the end all that matters is that you experienced love
A bad breakup is one of the most traumatic things you will ever go through. This kind of grief can go on for a very long time. However the transition is a wonderful time of hiatus to get to know yourself better. Frequently, it is only after experiencing deep grief that we realize how important it is to know ourselves better so we never make those mistakes again. It’s a time to stop living in denial about what you were ignoring in the relationship that was right in front of you. It’s a time to ask yourself why you tolerated the abuse, neglect, apathy or emotional unavailability. You have to be responsible for what you ignore and deny. You have to look at your past story and how you kept contributing to and perpetuating that story.
Creating a new and wonderful life is work, but it’s worth it. Many people who go through a devastating breakup find better relationships than they ever thought were possible. Bad breakups teach us profound lessons about what we won’t tolerate in the future and what we won’t settle for. I have known so many people who have found the love of their life only after experiencing a bad relationship.
On the other side of grief is life. On the other side of grief is freedom, opportunity and happiness and a relationship possibly like you’ve never known before.
“Life has to have a destination. You decide what you want and the best way to get there, no matter how long it takes. Dreams are hard work…there are no shortcuts. Think about the end result and persevere until you achieve them. If it takes one year or ten years, it doesn’t matter. Dreams are more important than how long they take or what fears you may have”
