A bad breakup is one of the most traumatic things you will ever go through. This kind of grief can go on for a very long time. However the transition is a wonderful time of hiatus to get to know yourself better. Frequently, it is only after experiencing deep grief that we realize how important it is to know ourselves better so we never make those mistakes again. It’s a time to stop living in denial about what you were ignoring in the relationship that was right in front of you. It’s a time to ask yourself why you tolerated the abuse, neglect, apathy or emotional unavailability. You have to be responsible for what you ignore and deny. You have to look at your past story and how you kept contributing to and perpetuating that story.

Creating a new and wonderful life is work, but it’s worth it. Many people who go through a devastating breakup find better relationships than they ever thought were possible. Bad breakups teach us profound lessons about what we won’t tolerate in the future and what we won’t settle for. I have known so many people who have found the love of their life only after experiencing a bad relationship.

On the other side of grief is life. On the other side of grief is freedom, opportunity and happiness and a relationship possibly like you’ve never known before.

A Simple Experiment

BLOG by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

There is no greater power in heaven or on earth than pure, unconditional love. The nature of the God force, the unseen intelligence in all things, which causes the material world and is the center of both the spiritual and physical plane, is best described as pure, unconditional love. This God force is the oversoul to which we are always connected because we are localized extensions of that force.

I suggest you embark on an experiment in which you practice only unconditional love for several days. Vow to yourself that you will only allow unconditional loving thoughts to emanate from your consciousness. Make an intense proclamation to live unconditional love. During this time, refuse to have judgmental or critical thoughts. In your quiet time, think only peace and love. In all of your relationships, think and act in only loving ways. Extend loving thoughts and energy wherever and whenever you encounter anyone or anything. Become unconditional love for this period of time.

By pouring love into your immediate environment and practicing gentleness in all of your thoughts, words, and actions, your immediate circle of friends will begin responding in a whole new way. This act becomes expansive very quickly and you can radiate this love to your whole community. You become detached and loving toward all. You are not loving the hostile acts of others, but you are loving the spirit that is blocked in those who are harmful and unloving. When you can live this way and reject all thoughts and actions that are not of an unconditionally loving nature, you will experience the essence of your spirit and discover how to overcome limitations in your life.

What can you expect as you practice a few days of being total unconditional love? If all of your meditations are devoted to love, and if you pour love into every single situation and every single person you meet, and beyond that to everyone on the planet and to the infinity of the universe, you will feel yourself becoming a different person. You will sleep more soundly. You will feel at peace virtually all of the time. Your relationships will be more deeply spiritual. You will begin recognizing the “coincidences” of your life with greater regularity. Your thought forms of unconditional love will begin to produce what you desire without your even being aware of how it is happening. Your dreams will be more intense, and the vision of your purpose will become clear