I know. I should have written before. Forgive me. But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I’m close. I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. But it’s not our time yet. And I know you’re wondering why.
It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for ‘meh’ relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. I’m so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. It’s taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I’ve written here is true.
The reasons we haven’t met yet, in no particular order:
1. I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be.
2. I’m with the wrong person right now.
3. I’m not ready to be loved unconditionally.
4. Since my life isn’t together, I think you’ll reject me.
5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.
6. I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.
7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like.
8. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.
9. I’m too focused on my own needs.
10. I don’t know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.
Clearly, I’m not my best self yet. Or even myself — I’m still figuring out who that is. I’m pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn’t like me all that much right now. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.
Be patient with me, darling heart. Know that I’m working my way toward you. So don’t spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.
I know it’s taking longer than you’d like. It’s a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined. But I’m here. This is me talking to you. And I’m not going anywhere.
“Love is life and if you are missing love, you are missing life”
Leo Buscaglia
Be in love with life…experience it all…the newness and the pain. There’s something miraculous about a love for life that brings all we want and need.
If you experience pain…remember the experience, learn the lesson and KNOW that there is new love on the way
Open your heart… a closed heart never finds love
Don’t hold back…vulnerability is not weakness, it is power
Align yourself completely with your uniqueness…your needs, dreams, and desires…and you will find someone who resonates with you
Get into life to feel and experience all the richness that awaits…love is not found sitting in your living room. (And remember, real relationships are not the ones you have on your cell phone or facebook)
Do what you love…in a job, a hobby, or giving to others…doing what you love makes you feel alive
Because in the end all that matters is that you experienced love
Why would anyone want to live thinking negative thoughts everyday?
So if you live every day with a negative attitude,
changing to a positive attitude is life transforming
I guarantee it!
So if you want a life significantly better than what you have,
try changing this one thing…ATTITUDE
and watch the miracles happen
Remember: You have control over your mind and your life
“If you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in your life, you’ll find it’s easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve. You need to set and live by these standards no matter what happens in your life.”
Practice kindness at all costs. Kindness makes you feel good about yourself as well as the people who receive your kindness. For what is our life with the human race if we cannot treat them with the decency that we all deserve.
There is no gain in treating people with contempt and disrespect and no pain in treating people with kindness.
There are many people who could learn this characteristic, and if they do, their lives will change for the better.
